I want to talk about friendship. The word “friend”, is used very loosely these days. What is the definition of a friend? Some would say someone that they grew up with, or someone they’ve known for many years. Time does not define a friend. I take friendship very seriously.
I like to describe it as a sisterhood amongst the women in my inner circle. I have (earned) their friendship, and trust just as they have earned mine. While the length of time you know someone plays a role in friendship, it is not the most important factor. I have women in my social circle that I have known since I was 13 years old, and I do not consider them my friend. There have been certain behaviors demonstrated that would make one think twice about any serious interaction with them. You have to truly watch people and be aware of the company you keep. Some should just be acquaintances. Keep in mind that you will probably have a lot more acquaintances than you will friends. Let me tell you what I feel it takes to be a friend to someone.
First, remember that friendships are not always about agreeing with each other, and fun, fun fun! There will be times when your girlfriend is going through something challenging . Sometimes all we want is someone to listen and not try to fix it. Just listening, wiping tears, or offering encouraging words is all that ‘s needed. In a true friendship you are in a safe enough place to talk to your friend about anything. Confidences and secrets should always be kept. We all know how much women like to talk. Anything shared in confidence should stay that way. Also, a true friend is always there when her friend/friends need her. Not just around for the good times. My friends are my sisters, and they can count on me. True friends don’t get caught up in jealousy and envy. They help, support and encourage each other. I value my life by the quality of my friends…… Much love:)